Money and success blocks and fear are no joke when you’re an entrepreneur, and your mind is the only thing driving you to success or failure. One of the things I’ve learned to
Why trigger yourself?
Triggering my biggest fears and blocks helps me to overcome them in a healthy, controlled way. I can give myself manageable “doses” of fears I want to work on, so I can work on doing things to work on them. Some of those things include:
- self-forgiveness (for things like past failures in that area)
- creating new, positive stories (like, “Even though I used to make nothing, I know I have the tools and knowledge to
How it works
One of my favorite ways to keep myself growing, and busting through my glass ceiling for income, is to set reminders using my Cozi software for income goals. (I use it for all kind of goals, actually, but income related goals tend to trigger a lot of resistance for me, so I’m focusing on the hard stuff for me!)
This is my process for breaking through income-related blocks:
- Set an automatic reminder for a goal I would love to reach, but feels way too big.
- Make a list of the feelings that come up (when I set the reminder and write out the goal I’m working on)
- Guilt over past mistakes or failures in this area
- Money stories that I tell myself like, “Well, I can’t do that because…”
- Use EFT to tap out the negative feelings
- Use positive affirmations to replace negative thought patterns
During most days, I’m not going to stop in the middle of my day to wirte out all of my feelings, I just do that step when I first setup the reminder.
The rest of it sounds detailed when you write it out, but it takes maybe 5 minutes, and if I don’t do EFT and simply use my affirmations, it is something I do while I’m doing housework or another task I don’t need to be completely present for.
Why triggering my fears helps me achieve new goals
When I create goals that trigger my fears, it forces me to deal with the negative feelings that hold me back from taking action, but it also reveals any of what I call Action Gaps in my routine.
Action gaps are areas where I’ve said something is my priority, but there’s a gap between my priorities and my actions. For example:
- When I want to get more fit, but don’t take the time to exercise
- If I say I want to make more money, but Netflix binge during my down time instead of taking extra time to work
- When I say I want to eat healthier, but don’t make a meal plan and end up getting junk at the drive-thru
I bet, if you’re like me, there are lots of areas where you have action gaps in your life, and revealing those action gaps is the first step to actually getting what you want.
Most people know they have action gaps, so the real change and progress happens when you take steps to close the action gap. Knowing you wanted to lose extra fat this year, while eating cake isn’t going to fix the problem, just like surfing Pinterest and reading income reports won’t fix your income problem.
That means forming new habits to support your goals, until you’re making sustainable progress toward what you want to achieve. This is where the reminders come in.
When I set a reminder, it’s easy to get into the mental routine of clearing the negative feelings, but if I’ve gone three days with my phone happily reminding me that I’m going to be my dream size next year, but I haven’t exercised, the reminders go from being encouraging to kind of nagging, which motivates change for me.
The thought that goes through my head when I’m not motivated and grumpy about the accountability usually sounds something like, “Ugh. I’ve got to look at that reminder tomorrow, so I may as well get it over with so I don’t feel bad.”